Definitions:
Relationship: Relationship, in this specific context refers to the interaction between two individuals in a partnership
Inner work: Denotes an inward process that may involve inquiry, observation, awareness, healing, and growth in the domain of the mental, emotion, physical, and spiritual aspects of self.
Are you and your partner doing inner work? Inner work is essential to maintaining aliveness through the cycles of the universe. Your relationship, in its specific incarnation happens within the context of the universe and it abides by the principles of creation, maintenance, destruction. this cycle is forever repeating itself on every level of being of you and the cosmos. To resist this cycle will bring suffering. To live in harmony with the cycle will bring a continued renewal, like the coming of spring each year. To live in harmony with the cycle will see your partnership live and die, and be reborn with every new cycle a new falling in love and a deepening thereof.
In the beginning you have fallen in love at a certain stage in your individual cycle. Your then current mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual stage was the starting point. the quality of your relationship will be related to your continued growth.
Please contemplate the following to find your truth: Growth begins in the center and moves outward.
Why is this an essential teaching? Because the process of evolution is an inward journey that moves and manifests outwardly. Confuse it and become lost.
In the context of relationship, this means ‘me’ first. This is not selfish, nor narcissistic. It’s a recognition that we are individuals, and it is through our individual ego that we interphase with the cosmos. We are spiritual beings having a individual human experience. The harmony of the individual “I” depends on the relative balance of giving and receiving that happens through the self. One must know thyself, to give thyself.
Further, we can only know if we are balanced when we are in our center. When one comes to fulfil their own needs, they have everything to give. When one gives from wholeness, their love is of a whole different degree then when we give out of routine, or duty.
To give from wholeness, we need to be a whole human. This requires inner work. Through inner work one develops a way in the world of finding balance and health in the domains of their mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual dimensions of self. When an individual has created balance within themselves, they have everything to give. When an individual is incomplete, they have unmet needs, they will then seek them in the world, or in their partner, and the energy exchange will be unequal in the partnership. Which is not a death sentence for a period, but if left un-checked, this imbalance will grow into resentment, or mistrust, or another maladies.
Having a developed inner work practice creates a channel for an individual to have continued growth, balance, and fulfilment. When an inner work practice is complete, the individual is total, they are fulfilled. Then they are not reliant on their partner, not co-dependent, not needing to have their ego stroked, or to please anyone.
As you are reading this you may be aware that this is not the ordinary situation. I am not asking you to be ordinary. If you think that this envisionment is too idealistic, then you have not encountered the right practices, tools, and mentors. This level relationship is possible for others, and it is possible for you.
The other option is to remain in a relationship where neither are truly doing their work. Or they are doing some work, but they are not totally committed. I say this, unless you have lived totally, you will die with regret. This life is too precious to hold back your potential, love is too sacred to dismember it. If you remain in a relationship that one or neither partner is doing their work, you or your partner will be attached to a stage of development or a certain aspect of the cycle (creation, maintenance, destruction), and the sands of time will sing your fate, and the fall may be hard.
There is a way to live through life with grace. There are those who have done it, and so can you. To enter into this level of mastery, you must commit to hold yourself to your highest standard and potential. Said another way, your love must be your divine offering to the creator.
Daily practice is required. A continued commitment to live awake and aware of life, living totally. In the beginning it is gradual, and slowly slowly your awareness will blossom like a flower. your love will grow and be beautiful refuge for all those who live in its presence.
the practices I teach involve Breath, movement, and meditation. For in these 3 contain dozens of highly advanced systems of evolution that address the mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual aspects of self. These practices, when taught well can bring every cell of your body online, priming you to live totally, to give you the tools to turn within, to find your balance, to fill your cup, and find wholeness. then you have your love to give. Then you have lived.
I teach Tantra, Kundalini, Dynamic Meditations, Still Meditation, Breathwork, pranyama, etc. these ancient and modern practices carry with them a power to transform. I have found fulfilment through them, A way to continually renew my love and fill my cup, and It is an honor to teach them from this place of love.
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