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1. Be conscious … meaning go slower than your use to at times… pause… feel… increase pace… find your normal patterns, pause, choose, become more aware
2. Utilize emotion, mental, physical, and spiritual intimacy

Example. Emotional – sing together, share feelings, lie heart to heart

Mental – talk se×ual, talk about your connection

Physical – tend to your partners body, explore their body with fingers, toes, tongue

Spiritual – meditate on love together, pray, learn tantra or sexual kung fu

3. Use tools – feather, rope, dildo, chains, musical instruments, butt plugs, etc
4. Don’t finish with ejaculation (learn to be multi-orgasmic without ejaculation)
5. Pause when se×ual energy is flowing, tense pelvic floor, se×ual organ, and rectum and anus and draw the energy to heart or head or circulate it around the body
6. Be intimate outside
7. Touch and tease to the exclusion of one se×ual element ( for example, start to touch and tease the body while coming close to kissing without kissing until your body throbs and pulses for it)
8. Take turns teasing the other
9. Communicate your desires and fantasies
10. Eye gaze
11. Communicate your fears around se×
12. Communicate past sexual experiences
13. Communicate how you like to be touched
14. Pay attention to patterns (do you give and receive equally, do you act habitually?)
15. Embody your se×ual God or goddess nature
16. Lick and suck – eye, anus, toes, fingers, in the ear
17. Learn your partners love langauge
18. Begin se× days or weeks before… start the foreplay and build up then.. talk about it.. cultivate it in your body… cultivate your mind with loving thoughts… mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual build up and intimacy before the act
19. Don’t let se×uality end when the sexual act ends
20. Breathworking, before, during, and after
21. Learn orgasm breath (book a session with me and learn more breath forms)
22. Massage the spine
23. Work with pain… slap, nipple twist, scratching, biting, etc
24. Work with the energy channels meridians, and open the body before circulating se×ual energy
25. Dance and stretch before making love
26. Write poetry
27. Synch breaths
28. Make love while eye gazing
29. Stay connected with your heart and their heart -in one expanded field of awareness
30. Master your se×ual practice so you can offer more and know what you want and like
31. Play with their hair
32. Invite in space for humor and playfulness
33. Explore new positions, both in the body, and in the world
34. Work with compression bands and blood flow restrictions
35. Practice reading each others non-verbal communication
36. Practicing levels of touch skin, muscle, bone, and doing energy work on subtle energy
37. Chant a mantra and or scream it…while having se× to open throat channels
38. Have se× with the light on… or in the dark
39. Do martial arts before se× together
40. Or dance in synchronization
41. One partner becomes still the other does all the moving and thrusting …then switch
42. Become animals
43. Surprise your partner by breaking your pattern of moving and breathing to evoke new energy
44. Pause… meditate and pulse your se×ual organs
45. For men …practice inhaling and squeezing se× centers, then relaxing…. slapp your balls… twirl your member.. pull your member and stretch the fascia
46. Myosacial on the genitals and anus
47. Use ice cubes
48. Use incense
49. Spread your toes and fingers then squeeze them and repeat to open energy channels
50. Shake before or during the act
51. Primal scream
52. Tell your partner you love them over and over or I thank you
53. Chant aummm or say loveeeeeeee and intoned the vvvvvvvvvveeeee at the end of love to your entire being vibrates in love

With love,
Aya -ZK

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