How to become Multi-orgasmic – A personal story and guide.

Part 1 – Brief History

Have you ever had a catastrophic break-up? My last break-up was 4 years ago, and it was the catalyst for the path I now walk as a breathworker, yoga and movement instructor, guide, coach, and tantric teacher.  Though the seeds of this life were planted before our departing, when that relationship ended, I gathered all my energy towards my purpose. And , one of the first things my higher spirit called me to do was move into a term of celibacy.

At the time I had practiced semen retention, but celibacy is a whole other ball-game. After a few months in a sweat lodge ceremony I announced -much to my surprise- that I was going to continue this celibacy for a year. Which was a true testament to the higher Will beginning to operate and speak for my life – I’m just along for the ride.

The first year brought countless jewels of wisdom and a deep healing in my capacity to be and relate to women on the level of love.  When the thought of sex is not silently dancing in the background of every interaction it opens up new pathways. With the subconscious no longer seeking sexual gratification, it was easy to orientate my time towards spiritual practice. Which is an important part of becoming a Tantric yogi and transcending the old structures of sex and imbuing new consciousness into the act.

After my year of celibacy was up, I just carried on without sex. Because my spiritual practice was several hours a day and I had switched to a vegetarian diet, my testosterone was low, and my life energy was not pulled towards women, but rather to praying. But, I never made another vow to go another year….though almost a year went by…. Almost! 

I met her at a multi-day event, and I can still remember the moment we locked eyes.  It was not the usually sexual flare and tingle that happens in the testicles, it was more akin to the upward spiraling of DNA evolving at multiple levels of my being. Our romance started slow… I would express it like this….in many relationships or encounters with women I’ve had it had often started from the physical, then moved to the mental-emotional, and some graduated to the spiritual level of connection. This new romance would pave the way for all future romances to start at the level of spirit, and then would ripple down, with physical intimacy being the final process of union. Our love was a marvelous conscious exploration into multi-levels of our being, which for both of us were clear and fresh. There was a natural coming together, and within a short period there was an acknowledgement of both our separate paths, and then there was a conscious separating, which ended in a friendship…one that is still near and dear to me.  Which for me, broke a vicious pattern of having lovers who I deeply connected with, then when the romance ended, the relationship and connection would too. Once again, this laid seeds for new patterns that would continue to emerge and the work of the higher spirit guiding the path and the surrendering to the way was apparent.

After our separation I had to deal with the new activation of my sexual energy.  As I mentioned, I had low testosterone and was very deep into my spiritual practice and had little interested in sex for the first year and a bit. But now I understood the spiritual value of sex as a catalyst for growth of everyone involved, and this led me to deeply explore Tantra and Taoist sexual practices among others.

Part 2 – Becoming Multi-orgasmic

At the time, my level of spiritual practice was at 4-6 hours a days, with longer periods on weekends.  As I began to integrate Tantric self-pleasure, my practiced flourished and I quickly became an adept.  In the beginning I would pleasure myself ~10 times a day.

How did I begin? It began by bringing myself close to the point of arousal then doing 1 of 2 things.

  1. Learning to pull the sexual energy back into my body, and pull it up my spine.
  2. Simply allowing myself to calm down once aroused, and re-conditioning the pattern of needing to release ejaculation.

It is very important to understanding that orgasm and ejaculation are not the same process.  Ejaculation is the release of seminal fluids that is paired with a huge drain of energy is the system. Orgasm is an ecstatic release of energy that can happen without ejaculation, and it can happen to any cell, or at the level of the chakras, or larger energetic centers. Thus, genital orgasm is possible, as well as heart orgasm, or brain orgasm’s…each brings a new awakening of dormant energy, each results in different biochemical pathways and unique releases and experiences. 

The benefits of the release of energy from the chakras and from the cells is awakening (increased awareness). Therefore, orgasm has the capacity to evolve an individual at an accelerate rate.  When beginning, it is important to know that the best orgasms come when the sexual energy can make it near the tip of penis, then be brought back in and up to the higher centers. That being said, if your beginning your probably going to mess up many times. Smile, then forgive yourself, because it is often paired with shame or guilt, then get a good rest and proper nutrition, and continue to practice.

When I was celibate for near 2 years, I stopped using porn. In that time, I became increasingly aware that it has negative draw backs in my capacity to love women, to connect on a spiritual level, and it resulted in poor masturbation habits, in that I became very unconscious, and out of my body while I self pleasured. I would focus on the porn and the tip of my shaft. There was no spiraling motions, slapping, rubbing, slow teasing, playing with other holes, no emotions, no spiritual value…It was all cut and dry. However, when I became sexual activated again, I started to be tempted to watch porn again. And I’m one to consciously explore something if it is a tempting me, I don’t repress and shove things down.  So I decided to use porn images only, and wow did it ever activate my sexual excitement.  I started to use porn in a much more conscious and respectful manner, being conscious while I touched myself, and being sensitive to the sites and content I was using. But eventually, it accelerated from pictures to videos…then, eventually, to be honest, I got bored. So I just randomly stopped using porn, a good sign that it was not addicting to my nervous system, and it was an important conscious exploration along the path.

Advancing your technique involves knowing different stroke patterns and learning to building your energy awareness. I will say, my background in yoga and movement practices creates the perfect internal conditions for energy awareness.  So I encourage anyone who wants to be multi-orgasmic to have a yogic and qigong practice…but, not simply any yoga practice, the pranic process of activating energy in the body during asanas, then taking that energy and moving it through the shushumna nadi (the spine), and up into the brain. This movement of energy is the pathway to higher consciousness, and it is the same pathway that sexual energy travels to reach higher brain areas.

Explaining the full process of learning to bring energy through the shushumna is a bit out of the reach of this article, but it’s something I teach in-person. The brief explanation in the context of sexual pleasure is to arouse the sexual energy first.  Then pair contractile forces with an inhalation and a squeezing upwards. Example…contract the shaft, base of penis, pelvic floor, anus, rectum, navel point, pull in and up on stomach, pull up diaphragm, gently pull shoulders together, pull up on then choke the throat by drawing chin toward chest, roll eyes up, stick tongue to roof of mouth, then squeeze. Thus, first we create the pathway step by step for the energy to flow, then we contract and move the sexual energy through the pathway. As you continually do this over and over through your sessions and over days and weeks this pathway becomes consolidated in your energy body and it becomes easier and easier.

In addition, sexual practices and warm up exercises for the genitals are important. These involves slapping the balls, stroking the shaft paired with breathing, massaging, drawing circles around the anus, pulling, squeezing, and other practices that enliven the area with energy, circulation, and teach control.

When I finally unlocked my first big multi-orgasm I did it by using an activating breath called orgasm breath – another breath that is best to be taught in person. This breath can open the body and create better orgasms. It involves breathing in and out the mouth, and making sound on the inhale and exhale…it begins with low moans and contractions and movements of the sex centers, and you raise your tone, and raise your awareness through your body till your screaming in pleasure and your energy is at the top of your head, and then you bring it back down. This moaning and releasing of the voice happens spontaneously in love making, and thus, the science of Tantra is to understanding sex, and perfect each individual piece to its fullest.

It is important to note that the process energy management during Tantra is not simply about bringing it up to the head. When we bring large amount of energy to the head it can relate to full body orgasms, and higher brain states, but it also releases and wastes a lot of the energy…therefore, it is important to learn to bring the energy up to the head, and back down to the stomach or lower dantien in Qigong. In our stomach area, we can store the energy we build up during sexual and spiritual practice. There are many pathways which on can circulate energy through the body, you can bring it up and down the spine…or you are bring it up the spine and down the front of the body and circle it around in a loop known as the microcosmic orbit.

When I became multi-orgasmic my sensuality increased ten-fold. You may notice this even when you begin to delay ejaculation that you are much more interested in women, and they are more interested in you – sexual viability is in the air. But, when I say sensuality, I am referring to the second chakra and its relationship to pleasure…it is a pleasure center, and a sensual one at that. Even while not having sex, there is a sensuality involved in someone who lives in their 2nd center….when they eat it is sensual, when they move it is sensual, it is an aura or energy about them that is attractive. And because the sexual center is a creative center, the energy can be circulated to other centers to empower them, which relates to why sexual energy cultivation is linked with manifesting, love, and increased energy for projects and goals.

Because I’m a wild human, I explore my chakras in deep detail. One ceremony I took several hundred micrograms of acid and when to the forest for the night. This was my first grand-great-ultimate orgasm, which was a full body, throbbing, pulsing, contracting, screaming bliss for 2 + hours. Because of how much energy was being released from my system, this completely changed my energy, and obviously created the contrasting space to enter a deep stillness and meditation. Part of the reason why this activation was so strong was because my massaged my genitals and anus for hours. I would roll on a tennis ball while doing breathwork, clearing any blockages in the nervous system and fascia, and opening new energetic pathways that linked my sexual region with my central channel. Furthermore, I do this practice -viewer discretion advised-, where I’m fasted and I squat naked. I pump my breath, similar to kapalabhati, which is a clearing breath, and I squeeze my organs, especially my anus and rectum.  As I do this for 20-30 minutes, I begin to develop a flowing rhythm that sends waves down my intestines and rectum…I then cultivate the capacity to push out and pull in my rectum.  For you see, the capacity to raise our energy and especially sexual energy involves the energetic pulling up of the body, thus, by spending time learning to know and control my internal organs, I have build a radically strong capacity to draw sexual energy and clear blockages deep within my system.

There was a term where I would orgasm multiple times a day every day. Then, frankly, I got bored. Do I want to orgasm again? Nah, just a walk is good too. I entered this space where sex, and sexuality was great, it never lost its flavour, but since I had explored that form of pleasure so deeply, it no longer called out to me. This transition allowed me to truly focus more of my energy and intelligence on love, my service and projects. Which is a powerful teaching, that it can be important to fully explore something until it finds it is fullest expression, then it will naturally be transcended. And I don’t necessarily mean I have transcended sex, and no longer desire it. But, the desire is not the same, It’s a desire that I recognize that is subservient to the higher will’s desire.  The desire is there for me when I choose to consciously explore it, but it holds no powerful sway of addictive quality that guides my life force. This scenario of loving sex, but not needing sex is an important Tantric transformation. Because my capacity to give love and pleasure increased ten-fold when I no longer needed a certain level of gratification for satisfaction, I was free to offer pleasure from a place of already being satisfied…which allows for me to get to know individual on the highest soul and spiritual level, without the sexual energy taking a dominant place in the equation of our interaction. And if the relationship flourishes and the connected is deep, when the physical aspect of the relationship happens, then the act becomes more significant and a more powerful accelerant of spiritual evolution.

Part 3 – Conclusions

I have spoken much, but I have not scratched the surface because a transmutation of energy and awakening through sexual cultivation practice has grossly and subtlety changed everything about me. A few last notes to share. I am currently not for or against the use pornography. Yes, there is some shady business with porn, and yes there is an addictive and negative side to it…but there is also space for a beautiful and tasteful side… so I choose not to judge and remain neutral. In my own practice, I have found the greatest orgasms are one’s where I am not only physical aroused, but emotional, mentally, and spiritual stimulated… thus, if I simply self-pleasure without feeling emotionally involved with the person, the pleasure is less and it can lower my vibration. 

Learning to work with my sexual energy has offered me deep respect for the feminine. A deep honouring and sacredness has developed, and not just with the women I am intimate with, but my mother, and grandmother, and most notably, my capacity to have girls who are friends or sisters. When one can truly be safe within themselves, they open the door to love other people, especially women can feel that level of safety in your presence. I always approach connections, especially with women, as if they can read my deepest thoughts, and through this process I stay deeply aware of my thoughts and feelings and whether they are of value to my (and our) highest evolution…and in truth, when you deeply move into love, lovers can basically read your thoughts!  Which can sound scary, but if your committed to living in truth, it’s actually the most freeing thing.  

It’s an honour to share these teachings.  Because when I first started practicing Tantra, my life started to make sense. I was always a hyper-sexual human, and finding Tantra felt like I knew the material for ages and ages – which may have truth to it. The Tantric path is not for everyone, though some level of tantric sexuality is available for most anyone who is ready to reclaim their sexuality in a new and more conscious way, for their evolution, and for the shared evolution of humanity. My love and teachings extend not merely to the sexual act, but the whole art of intimacy, which is like a wheel, wherein emotional, mental, and spiritual connection is as important as any other part. These are teachings of the times, we are ready to expand our sexual consciousness, and our capacity to be and relate to others. Through the Tantric movement I see new levels of conscious relating occurring, new ways of pair bonding, new ways to expressing love, and finding the balance between our own inner masculine and feminine, and yes, SO much good love-making! I thank you for reading.

If anything has sparked interest in you, please reach out.

Areas to focus on:

  • Breathwork
  • Yoga
  • Sexual kung fu
  • Energetically pulling the energy up
  • Contraction and release of genitals, pelvic floor, and anus
  • Emotional intimacy
  • Massaging techniques
  • Meditation
  • Determining your spiritual relationship with sex, and what is spiritually in alignment with your sexual practices
  • Honouring yourself and your partner
  • Self-love and connection
  • Balance of sexual energy
  • Utilizing sexual energy for manifestation, love, and liberation

I realize I did not mention many of these, stay in tune for more content, or leave a comment which area you’d like me to focus more attention on


  • Aya

Shift your Health

Up level your health with these tips

  • Note: not every health practice is appropriate for everyone… choosing what health decisions are best for you come down to a deep listening and self-knowing.

Enjoy, peace and love.

  1. Choose to be healthy. Literally, pause before making a decision…And say out loud, or internally affirm, I will make the healthy choice. Or, a more powerful way to make decisions is to pause, and affirm and set the intention to make the most loving decision. The most loving decisions is important, because when we affirm, we are speaking to our subconscious. And, when we make decisions with love, we make decisions that are best for us and other people….contrast this with making health decisions to be rich, or more attractive, or to be the best. It’s not that those cannot be part of the decisions, but if one is too caught up into trying to be the best, they will often make decisions that aren’t truly loving to themselves…and further, being caught up in a goal such as being the best leads one to a path of doing things for the self. Instead, if decisions are anchored in love, it means they are best not only for you, but for all beings. Thus, when we learn to source our decision making to consider not merely what is best for ourselves, and our health, and our goals, but what is also the most loving decisions, we activate and connect with a higher awareness and power.
  2. Smile ….everyone says that… but, I encourage you to practice the Inner Smile Technique by Mantak Chia. Inner smile is a meditation technique which you learn to smile at your organs and promote healing and joy in the body.
  3. Laugh more! …once again, it’s easy to say. … cultivate your capacity to laugh more by trying laughter yoga (just youtube it for practices, or come do a session with me)
  4. Have more sex – This one has sssssssooooo many benefits. Sexual energy is life force energy…it can charge up anything you are working on, from your work outs, your creative projects, to your relationships… Can’t have more sex at this time? Learn tantric self-pleasure practices and cultivate yourself into the full potential of what you can be as a lover. I speak as someone who took 2 years of celibacy in his prime mid twenties to learn tantric practices, and it was one of the most rewarding decisions I’ve ever made. To know something (and oh how did I know it, and did enjoy it), then to give it up voluntarily, then to come back to it allows one to truly understanding the meaning of a thing. And sex has the power to enliven one’s entire being and evolve them.
  5. Drink more water
  6. Consider, and monitor your pH balance
  7. Raw apple cider vinegar
  8. Tap your whole body, massage your whole body….by breathing into and massaging hormone and gland centers you activate them…and by massaging you encourage lymph flow
  9. Always be total… either in moving or in stillness. Thus, if you are active during the day and working, keep the energy flowing…. With walks, jumping jacks, sets of push ups, small yoga routines…. Keep life flowing through your veins… until you need rest, then learn to rest totally.
  10. Meditate – meditation is medicine for the mind …and the mind is the body
  11. Understand health to be holistic aka physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual … the healthiest life you can have will nourish all these aspects of you
  12. Visualize…. Take the time to focus your energy on what you WANT …what is your ideal picture of health? Some people are legends who turn themselves into giant balls of muscle, other prefer to have soft and flexible yoga bodies… what do you want?
  13. Holistic health includes community ! …. You are a mulit-dimensional being…on one level of analysis you are an individual, on another level analysis your unit on consciousness is part of the body of community….being a healthy and active part in a community allows you to grow your consciousness and be more connected to the larger aspects of you and the grander context of your life…which builds meanings, and purpose, and life force energy… and health!

Shift your Yoga

  1. Practice with structure example.. beginning intention …presence…mantra ..breatwork… start slow…find peak… integration…cool down.. rest… breathwork… meditation

2.. never stop practicing on and off the mat

  1. Breath into your body
  2. Breath option… breath in squeeze or contract muscle groups, exhale relax
  3. Breath option… breath as you pull energy like a riplle from the feet through spine up into head, exhale relax let the energy drain down
  4. Practice for the better of all beings
  5. Utilize facial expression and eye movement …tunnel vision for focus and peripheral vision for relaxation
  6. Always always rest totally after practice
  7. Practice with different body systems … muscles, bones…energetically
  8. Practice fasted or with minimal food in body system for best results
  9. Alkalize the body.. perhaps with raw apple cidar vinager or urine
  10. Practice new ways ….but to best learn a method.. stick with it for a period till you understand its uniqueness on a cellular level
  11. Embody the teachings of yoga beyond the physical practice
  12. Don’t simply practice asana… ethical behaviour, breathwork, sense withdrawal, meditation, trance etc
  13. Learn from masters
  14. Practice mantra… to invoke, to pray, to heal
  15. Practice the 3 primary breathing bandhas
  16. Foot lock and hand lock bandhas too
  17. Get familiar with your internal energy… pelvis floor, organ spaces and chi
  18. Always continue to develop greater discipline
  19. Read ancient texts
  20. Sanskrit cultures the nervous system… sanskrit mantras are powerful technologies
  21. Your practice is not be compared with others
  22. Gain an innerstanding of your chakras beyond intellectual knowledge
  23. Learn tantric sexual cultivation
  24. Yoga is about union, all other aims are inferior
  25. Be total when you practice
  26. Encourage others
  27. Have faith
  28. Practice with love


Do you ever find yourself bored?
Here is a list of things you can do almost anywhere.

  1. Practice breathing full and deep
  2. Count 1 – 10 … over and over… it will focus your mind
  3. Track the sense through your body for tensions .. when you find them, move, shake, massage or dance them out
  4. Take your tongue and move it around your move and gather saliva … we can cultivate our saliva – the saliva actually contains many endogenous opioids…which is why it feels so good to kiss
  5. Self-pleasure – you can do this almost anywhere 🤣
    I have some great stories with this one.
  6. Visualize your dreams and what your going to do with the gift of life
  7. Tone… or work on vocal cords.
  8. Practice self love
  9. Send a message to someone you love… either through Astral dimensions or social media
  10. Determine something that is not serving you and quit it
  11. Make a list of values you cherish… example … discipline…then go and embody that value
  12. Just sit and be …
  13. Just sit and become aware…. see how many things you can become aware of while sitting .. with your senses…with your mind… how far can you stretch your consciousness?
  14. Enter a trance… okay, you may have to learn this one first, but come hang out and we can learn together
  15. Play with your hair … or touch your bald head ..both are beneficial
  16. Reflect on your life and accomplishments … or sit with a loving awareness and reflect on your regrets
  17. Twirl your thumbs ….drawing circles with the body helps to cutluvate awareness and balance in the system
  18. Look at your left brain then your right brain then back and fourth back and fourth
  19. Run your hands … then puts your palms toward eachother and feel the energy in between by moving them close and further away
  20. Make an energy ball and visualize
  21. Think of 5 impossible things
  22. Rub your belly ..
  23. Alternate nostril breathing -i do this exercise 3- 4 times a day it’s par excellence
  24. Gratitude gratitude and more gratitude… you can never do this one enough
  25. The mind ordinary moves in fairly straight patterns if one is living a routine life… practice non-linear thinking… think adventurous… think about obscurity… think about your fantasies… think about something no one has done before
  26. Make lists 😛
  27. Create art… even if it is just a arranging a few rocks that someone else may see… bless it with love, and carry on you beautiful being
  28. Remember who you were born you were born
  29. Ask yourself … with sincerity … who am I? Don’t seek to anwser it… continually sit in a state of inquiry… who am I?
  30. Dissolve your whole body with the exhale…
  31. Close your eyes… and become empty space
  32. Look at something with devotion
  33. Say all the people you knows name and think of the first feeling you have when you think of them
  34. Chant aummmmmmm
  35. Focus on your heart and what your feeling.. and expand those feelings.
  36. Focus on the love in your heart, and expand that love to fill the space your in and engulf anyone near you -project love like a care bear beam
  37. Say your name over and over and over to cultivate radical awareness
  38. Go on a voyage, by tracking your parents… and then your grandparents.. and see how far back you can imagine living and imagine what their lives were like… then imagine what your children’s children’s lives will be like
  39. Pray for 7 generations back and 7 generations forward
  40. Offer something to the earth
  41. Connect with your breath… and consider that you need each breath to survive.. connect with the preciousness of the moment
  42. Pulse your anus, pelvic floor, and sex organ
  43. Pump your navel in and out
  44. Tap your chest
  45. Visulize complex visual patterns and shapes
  46. Imagine a white, violet, or golden light moving up and down your spine as your breath
  47. Focus on the area and energy 16 inches above your head
  48. Close your eyes and imagine fire
  49. Visualize your fully enlightened self
  50. Surrender

With love,
Aya -ZK

For information on 1-on-1 sessions and coaching, and all my links to YouTube, podcasts, website, etc.

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Shift your day into success

  1. Treat your first hour of the day as sacred… it determines how the day flows.

My key principles for an effective morning routine
A) gratitude, love, and connect with vision
B) breath, move, meditate
C) Create

Routines can be done in a short period .. 20 minute rituals… but, it depends what your life is about. The standard i set for myself is to aim for 2 hours in the morning, 2 hours in the evening… which brings me to number 2

  1. Evening routine … morning and evening are the most powerful times to prime the subconscious…the subconscious determines your reality.

Evening routine principles are simular, though the exercises you choose will be different … and, you may want to non judgmentally reflect on your day

  1. Do what you love … I can’t encourage this one enough… in the beginning you may only have time to download what you love for a short period… but eventually if you do what you love enough you can figure out a way to make a life out of it.

I’m constantly finding new things I love and adding them to what I do

  1. Master your mind and body

The easier path to mastering the mind is through the body, as opposed to trying to master the mind with the body. In truth, mind is body.

Body is easier to control… to bring into routine.. to harmonize

Have an intelligent movement routine that includes breathing and moving and meditating

  1. Always direct your focus-where your mind flows, energy goes…. I program my thoughts … when I don’t need to think I focus on my breath or a mantra… when I do need to think, I focus only on what I am calling in and cultivating 
  2. Live a high vibe lifestyle

-be barefoot on the earth, playing in the water, or hiking if you can

  • run, swim, cycle
  • see people, make love to people, make memories with people, be intimate and vulnerable with people, help people, laugh with people…make people a focus of your life
    -pray, sing, dance
  1. Eat a high vibrational diet

Don’t eat too much, be precise with your nutrition based on your needs

  1. Be in community or a group that encourages you or holds you accountable – we grow strong together

We heal together

We are one

  1. Mini- exercise routines through the day … I am always going to the washroom and doing jumping jacks… or running around my block, or taking multiple cold showers, or popping into yoga poses while waiting for traffic …. keep the energy flowing
  2. Raise your standards … raise the standard of cleanliness you live by, raise the standard you have for your body, and your behaviour …
  3. Connect with mother nature .. she is a part of you with a vast intelligence … to grow and evolve without her is not wise
  4. Connect with your soul or spirit.. . Your soul or spirit is your highest self.. it is the bridge between you and God so to speak. When you are connected to your soul you are in good alignment.
  5. Drink more water!
  6. Practice holding a smile and smiling at your organs
  7. Shake throughout the day so you don’t build up tensions … be aware where you build up tensions and work on them!
  8. Make every situation a learning situation and every moment will have value and meaning
  9. Be AWARE … even if you are sitting you can make your perception more aware by noticing things around you .. get curious…. curiosity and awareness awaken the system to take in more information
  10. Have a healthy information diet …. some of the nutrition food categories I consume in my info diet ….
    A)spiritual info B) exercise and wellness C) wealth creation D) cultural – foreign and domestic
  11. Practice balance
  12. Prioritize proper rest… that means good sleeps.. and perhaps laying don’t during the day for brief periods

With love,
Aya -ZK

For information on 1-on-1 sessions and coaching, and all my links to YouTube, podcasts, website, etc.

breathwork #pranayama #holistic #yoga #meditation #spirituality #embodied #breath #tantra #consciousness #evolution #health  #mastery #growth #tantra #qigong #squamish