Tantra for Males

This content discusses the gential region, please be mindful of that before you read.

Male premature ejaculation.
Let me share some words on the subject.

When a man contracts his gental region: genitals, perineum, and Anus…energy flows into it.

His capacity to contract this area depends on a mind body connection… or we could say, the nerves that innervate this region must be under his conscious control and have developed functional density. It’s like building a muscle, the more one learns to contract, neuroplastic changes take place offering more strength and control.

His capacity to contract enhances his capacity or potential to relax.

The nature of sexual pleasure is the sensation of contraction and release and the consequent chemicals created through this motion.

It should be noted here, that contract and relaxation creates the chemicals…sex or sexuality need not be in the equation….it is only a paired learning that we think this needs to take place.

But enhancing one’s ability to be hard or contract does not necessarily mean one can relax. The relaxation is not simply physical in nature. But emotional in nature. In that, one cannot dearmour their nervous system and fully relax if they don’t feel safe to surrender. Pleasure will be limited to the local region of the body it was created in…which is the genital region.

There will be blockages that prevent the sexual energy from moving through the body, because the individual is guarded.

For example, if sexual energy is able to reach the heart, it was cause an out pouring of emotion. If a man is blocked in his heart, his pleasure is limited.

Still higher the sexual energy can go till lifts into the brain. When the sexual energy reaches the brain all new chemicals are created changing the sensation from bodily pleasure to spiritual bliss. The vibratory rate of individual will also lift.

If a man wants to reach these heightened states of bliss, there are several things to be aware of and practice.

As I have mentioned, he must be able to contract and relax his genital region well. But that is merely where the creative energy is channeled and pumped from… it must make it up the spinal cord to reach the higher centers of activation.

Thus, subtle energy work with the spine is necessary.

In order to work with the spine one should be aware of the chakra system and kundalini, or another system that speaks to the energetic lifting of spinal energy.

A man may deepen into bliss by connecting with a women who he fully loves and accepts unconditionally. These connections will then take place in the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual domains. This level of connection allows them to connect on gross to subtle levels … then the dissolving into each other can take place.

The polarity of partners (females being often stronger in negative energy, and males in positive) makes like an energy charger.

In order to reach higher spiritual love and connection there is a certain level of mastery over the evolutionary drive to ejaculated that must be mastered. Orgasm and ejaculation are not tied. A man may orgasm without any need to ejaculated. And by overcoming this basic instinct he empowers himself be ridding himself of that conditioning and freeing up energy in his system.

A man will only be able to fully feel pleasure if he has cleansed his conditoning. Years of repression in his family line, and a lifetime of guilt and shame and religious and political programming. There is a level of inner work that must be cleared for him to fully sink into pleasure.

There is much more to say, and we haven’t even spoken to of the sexual energetic he must master during the sex act…

Cya later, this is just a beginning tease.

Love, Sex, Truth, Breathing, Dying – Teachings on the Sacred Art of Surrender.

Love, Sex, Truth, Breathing, Dying – Teachings on the Sacred Art of Surrender.

To surrender in the highest sense is not give up, but to give way to something greater.
Surrender is found across all spiritual practices.
For it is a foundational to life and the most cherishable experiences.

Surrender may be contrasted with effort.
Effort is of the individual will. It takes a kind of force to exert this will upon yourself and the world. Because the individual will is asserted from the vantage point of your separate identity, it is selfish. This is not a condemnation of individual will, it serves a purpose in the development of consciousness. However, the individual will must be surrendered for consciousness to experience the higher dimensions of reality associated with love, high sex, truth, and dying. The processes associated with these four words can lift an individual into higher realms of being in which their individual identity and will dissolve -this process is hallmarked by surrender.

What is the individual will, and why must it be surrendered?

The individual and separate identity is ego, it is a certain stage of development when consciousness seeks to know itself as separate. This stage is associated with an effort of being in the world. Because, when you are a separate ego with a will and needs, wants, and desires, it is upon you to create actions to fight for, or to earn what you desire. The development of this will, is associated with the solar plexus chakra in yogic philosophy, and it is an important stage in development. An individual who operates primarily at this vibratory level of consciousness with success will be a ‘doer’ in the world, they may have a large business or other operations that take place in the dimension of reality we see with our 5 senses. The solar plexus vibratory level is very much associated with the third dimension, the one we can see with our eyes.

Individuals who operate primarily at the third vibratory level often seek control. Control of diet, and their body. Control of their environment. It is all a great effort, and masters of this level have done many profound acts to affect the world.

Beyond the world we see with our eyes lies the higher dimensions. The next vibratory center that consciousness can rise to is that of love. Love is associated with the heart chakra, and at this level of consciousness the individual ego begins to or totally dissolves through surrender. It is through love that we surrender our individual for the shared being that is created through love. At first this may be love of another, or one’s family, then eventually this love can extend to all beings. It requires surrender. The individual will and effort is ineffective to navigate love, and it acts to impede the shared being that is created in the name of love.

I mentioned sex as a pathway to surrender. And all forms of sex have some sense of surrender if one is feeling the pleasure associated with this great act. But, on the lower levels of sex, the individual will and desire can still be active. The higher level of sex is when two individuals come together in love and their sex can effectively be a vehicle for dissolving and reaching higher states of consciousness. Once again, this process and its practice involves surrender.
In both love and sex, the surrendering may not be an easeful process if one is resistant. In order to surrender one must be willing and ready to bow down their individual desire to have things the way they want them, and offer control to the higher force of love. It takes a certain level of faith. For one has been operating at the level of control and will, and to surrender to love is a death. It is the recognition that there is something greater than oneself, and the act of surrendering takes place on an alchemical level of being.

So too with truth, one must surrender all that they know up till that moment to allow a great understanding of reality. Once again, the individual will can cling to its worldview and understanding, it can resist information that is contrary to its current understanding. The process of resisting will take great psychic effort to repress new information that violates one’s world view. After a time enough information will pass through that a reconstruction must take place.
The whole process of the learnings of this life culminate at death. If one has been resistant to the unconditional love of the universe, and the higher truths of reality, then death will be a struggle and effortful affair of clinging. If one has lived a life of surrendering at the level of their being, then death is another doorway to a higher dimension of knowing. We learn through polarity, and death is the other side of life.

Surrender is the pathway to an easeful life and passing. Yet, the teachings of surrender and the practices that are helpful for this vital art are rarely taught in the mainstream or valued in culture. Much of culture still values the self-made man (or woman), much of culture still values effort and the individual who can assert their will on the world and make change. We value working out or using effort, drastically more than gentle arts of moving with grace, or balanced arts of working with effort and surrender. We value effortful and controlled dances more than free movement and ecstatic dance. Especially in the West, we want our individual vision for life to unfold as we desire it, perhaps this includes our white picket fence, two kids, and vacations in Hawaii. – once again, I am not passing judgment, at a certain level of consciousness this may be the highest potential that one can dream or aspire to. But, as an individual evolves, and this is the theme of our generation during this pandemic, we are, myself included, are being asked to take a wider vision of the context of our lives as a global community, connected through love and a shared existence with all beings on this earth.
The point of development from ego to love, is from “I” to “we” and a theme of our collective evolution is a surrendering of our individual plans and desires for how life will unfold, and a surrendering to what actions are necessary for the benefit of the all. In this process, our society will all have the opportunity to surrender into greater levels of love, receive greater access to truth, and even transcend any fears of dying and the understanding of their individual life in the greater context of how they fit into the All.

It is a sacred time to be alive.

How does one learn to surrender?

There are systems found in nearly every spiritual science or religion. At a fundamental level, it involves presence. In order to surrender to a situation, one must be aware of what the energy of the situation is asking. Then, one must be present with their body and what the higher intelligence within them is calling forward. Thus, developing a connection with your body, your heart, and mind is important. This can be practiced in yoga, breathwork, meditation, and qigong, among other mindbody arts. For example, take yoga.
In the beginning of a yoga practice it is good to ‘tune in’, or cultivate awareness in the body, in the heart and emotions, and in the mind. Then as one practices they take different postures. Each posture is an opportunity for surrendering. To surrender into a posture, assume it, and then relax your whole body and being, and then allow the greater intelligence of your bodymind and the universe to guide you into a more easeful way of posturing. This is in contrast to efforting into a posture, not fully relaxing, which means carrying the same rigid conditioned posture of the body and mind one entered the practice with and efforting and carrying it through the movements. If the practice has gone well, one will move into many different positions and have surrendered to the universe and thus cultivated a level of surrender and deep listening at a cellular level of their body and being. This increased connection or union with an individual to their body and the greater mind of the universe can then be carried out into the world. When a yoga practice is consistent and daily, an individual can learn to live at a level of surrender, where life becomes an effortless process.

Remember this, how we move and breath, is how we cultivate our mind and actions. I am not against working out, but if you are always working out and efforting, you will become excellent at efforting, and to the degree you fail to learn to be easeful and learn to surrender, you will only know how to effort. This may be satisfactory if you are doing well in life and working, but what happens when you go on vacation and want to unwind? Or when you are asked to fall in love and surrender? Or when it is time to surrender to death? All the effort in the world cannot save the last dance with death from being a surrender.

The sacred teachings of the breath.

I teach many mind body arts, breathwork being the primary one I offer to the public. The breath has a remarkable capacity to teach us the balance of effort and surrender. One of the styles of conscious connected breathwork I teach involves an effortful inhale and a surrendered or effortless exhale. This pattern of breathing ripples through the entire being, effecting the nervous system and every cell. When an individual practices this art, they learn to live in this balance, knowing surrendering on a felt-sense level. And when practiced regularly, this breathwork has a capacity to change the subconscious breathing pattern – the one you have when you don’t think about your breathing that happens around 22,000 – 26,000 times a day. And there it is, the sacred teaching of the breath. If upon each breath cycle you learn to effort and surrender, you know the great cycle of life. Then when love comes, or when death comes, or when life asks you for something beyond yourself, you are already practicing surrender with every breath.
Every breath is a cycle. Life and death is the great cycle. Master your breathing, and master the cycles.

With love,

Truth, Beauty, and Goodness – On the restructuring of values for the new earth

Our world is in chaos.
The period of chaos is the opportunity for new ways to take root.
Take this: If you walk and move and breath in an ordinary way all week, and then you go dancing on the weekend. If you are free in your dance, you will move into chaos. You will break up the patterns of thinking and feeling, moving and breathing, and you will breath new life into your being.
The world is now in the chaotic dance of Shiva and annihilator.
There is now the opportunity for newness to arise and the breaking of old patterns.
An upwelling of new ideas, values, and Ways to live.

The idea of living by the values of truth, beauty, and goodness is not a new one.
But then again, some ponder that there is no such thing as new ideas, just endless cycles of knowing and forgetting.

The ideas of truth, beauty, and goodness are not foundational for our society.
The hard truths behind our current situation are not in the light. There is a veil, a smokescreen of information parading as truth.
When an individual, or a society (microcosm – macrocosm) chooses to live out of truth, they will naturally also veer away from truth and beauty.
It is evident.

The world has become ugly.

A smile is perhaps among the most beautiful sights, and what have we done?
This is no good. Much has been done which is not good for our children, for our economy, for our planet.
Note: I have not been specific in my analysis of what is not truth, it is not my role here to convince you of what is happening, there are many crusaders who operate in the sharing of that information and a collective of aware individuals with the respective knowledge. My intention is to offer some structure for your mind.

It is my understanding that change happens at the level of the individual, for we are the universe in ecstatic motion, breathing existence into being. I do not offer these words as a philosophy to believe in, or promote it as the only way. The lanterns of truth, beauty, and goodness are lights to guide you along to make good decisions. An encouragement to read these words with an openness, as one would read a story. If anything that has been said have value, then keep it, the rest can be tossed to the thresher.

Living by truth begins in one’s own being and body. Truth is a cloak of energy you wear that filters information coming in and out of your field of awareness. Truth is a choice, and it is not always an easy one. For if one has been living in lies, the lies tend to build up in the system in the shadows of consciousness. To commit to truth is to peer down into your dump and then do the work to sort through the shit. When truth be thy name, a radiant light appears in the eye, or more precisely, the vibration of truth is known in the being. When one is living in truth, lies become obvious at first sight. When one is living in lies, they are prone to deception, for they are deceiving themselves, and they are easy to deceive.
There is the knowing of truth, the speaking of truth, and the living of truth. The highest teaching is living in truth…. For then it no longer becomes a logical analysis of the mind, but an embodied presence. This is an individual journey, as much as a collective one, we are all tasked with the eternal dilemma of choice, to choose the right of wrong way. And it is a way, if you walk in truth, you walk into eternity to manifest a different reality then if you walk away from truth. In terms of the collective, too many individuals have walked from truth, and our outer world is the representation of this.
Truth takes consciousness. As mentioned, each moment we are tasked with a choice, if you are unconscious, you give up this basic freedom. If you are conscious, and you are orientated towards the arrow of truth, then you open the door to the great mystery. It is a mystery, for when one opens themselves to truth, they must content with eternity in a new way. When the eye of truth is thyn own, one will begin to know themselves more deeply, and when one begins to know themselves in this sacred light, they must be willing to see all that they are, and all that they have been, and all there is. Ordinarily consciousness is a veil, it is a reducing valve. We perceive but a slice of life…we know but a moment of our eternal being. When the veil lifts in truth, we must content with lifetimes of choices, mistakes, manifestations, and responsibility.
We are asked in this time to live in our highest truth. Truth leads to goodness and beauty.

Goodness comes from truth. It is a natural offspring. Truth, goodness, and beauty all lead to each other. Goodness is that which is good, it is so simple! If one is living in truth, it will be quite obvious what is good. Goodness can be contrasted with badness, or evil. And as this is an internal process, you get to determine what is good and pure, and what is sin and bad. It is a conscious process of sorting the wheat from the chaff. Each individual must take a look at every aspect of their body, being, and world and choose to give energy and attention to that which is good. The forces of goodness and evil are always at work, they are living pulsing streams of energy that inhabit forces and beings, and in these times of chaos and restructuring, these two forces are at will and work, and it is upon the individual to align with their path and call forth their destiny. The choices we make now are weighted, all of humanity, our eternal path, and the entire earth is listening for our choice.

Many moral systems and religions speak to morality, to truth, to goodness, to right and wrong, and it is important. Lesser spoken to is beauty, but no lesser is beauty than truth and goodness. If the beauty is actually real beauty, it is naturally good and truthful. I am not speaking of beauty in a limited, culturally appropriated dimension. I am speaking of the beauty that is contained with good action, the elderly smile of a wise woman, a sight of compassionate workers tending to the needs of the planet, the planting of vegetables, the sight of children learning and dancing. Religions have often become too much concerned with truth and morals, and have forgotten to teach a beautiful life. A beautiful religion is one which has a certain aesthetic, there is an attractive quality to it. Perhaps there will be dancing, singing, poetry, and the telling of wonderous stories. We will be telling the story of this generation to our children for generations to come. There is an invitation for us all to tell this story based on our experiences, and there is a choice to make it a beautiful story.

The principles of beauty, truth, and goodness are an effective tool for structuring choice. We make thousands of choices every day. The more one can learn to pause for their choices and assess if they align towards creating or maintaining truth, beauty, and goodness, the more one will forge their pathway in this good way. This is our sovereign power as co-creators in this universe. Our opportunity to lend our light is in part our capacity to live in our truth, beauty, and goodness. You will become more truthfull, beautiful, and goodness will flourish as you walk in this path. By you, I am referring to your individual body and being, but also your wider body and its connection with all beings.


  • Slow down in your decision making process
  • Choose health and wellness
  • Make art
  • Make love – physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual
  • Be authentic
  • Seek, search, and live in a field of truth
  • Reflect on your day, sort through the wheat and chaff and learn to live better each moment
  • Connect with community
  • Connect with nature, the supreme teacher of ageless truth, beauty, and goodness

These qualities of beauty, truth and goodness are your nature. They do take cultivation and tending, each one will develop their own way…your way is your gift, it is your pathway to your potential, and it is the greatest gift you have to offer the world….your authentic being, living your truth, is the most beautiful incarnation of you that is available. One individual living in truth, beauty, and goodness becomes a mirror, for others to see themselves in this same light. This light is the dispeller of darkness, ugliness, and lies.

It’s time to clean up ourselves and our planet.

I thank you for being here in this historical time.
I thank you for being my mirror.
I thank you for your beauty.
I thank you for your truth.
I thank you for your goodness.

I’ll see you shortly, in a community gathering, with the children, with good food and dance, with fire, and all the elements. What a bright day it will be, I look forward to it, I hold it’s image in my mind. We are the people of love. Love inherently contains truth, beauty, and goodness. That is why you become beautiful in love, and when you fall in love your partner appears as the most beautiful person in the world. Others don’t see them as you do, love creates the alchemical transformation that makes everything beautiful. When one is living in love, truth is their name, goodness is their action, and it is beautiful.

Thank you for choosing love.

With love, Aya

Maintaining and Deepening Intimacy

The depth and heights of intimacy express our whole being in relationship.

Intimacy is a sacred fire that takes continual tending.

This article explores 5 ways to maintain and deepen intimacy.

  1. The four directions: physical, emotional, mental, spiritual
  2. Deep listening – pauses
  3. 24/7 Awareness
  4. Self-work
  5. Love
  6. The four directions: physical, emotional, mental, spiritual

The four directions refer to the various layers of your being, from the gross physical matter to the subtle mental body, and even to the spiritual dimension of your soul, or the intangible aspect of your being that is closest to divine source. The plenum of intimacy is when we encounter an individual who meets us across all domains. Thus, a prerequisite for the highest level of intimacy is that we cultivate an intimacy within ourselves to know our depths and heights (aspect 4: self-work).

The spiritual or soul level relationship will be one of the most sacred encounters of learning and experiencing. It is possible to meet someone on the spiritual level, but not in the other directions. Or, in the context of a partner, you may begin with a soul connection, and you may be able to meet and be met mentally, and emotionally, but less so physical, and because of the strength of the soul connection, aspects of your being and body will adjust and reprogram to align to the soul’s blueprint and thus if the soul connection is strong, it is possible to overcome any lesser dimension.

When in relationship with an individual who CAN meet you on all levels, it does not mean they always will be. That is the dance of relationship…it is about being capable of adjusting your frequency to meet them at the level they are on…and there will be times when one will raise the level, or the lower the level, and through these fluctuations there is great learning.

To stay in tune, one need to cultivate a deep listening.

  1. Deep Listening – pauses

Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls – Khalil Gibran

There are times when you and the one you are in relationship with will be in synch and flow. To maintain that level of connection, there will be pauses and a deep listening. This may mean that in the context of being together you create literal pauses to sink into the silence and allow the natural means of synchronisation to occur. It may also refer to creating distance. If you live together, it can be beneficial to create energetic space to not be in each others immediate field. Being away in time and space can also be beneficial, it will allow you to strengthen the more subtle dimensions of your connection of the spiritual planes.

In the context of sexual intimacy, the cadence may develop that your expression becomes physical for a time, then there is a slowing down to hold each other and connect heart to heart, or eye to eye. These pauses will allow your energies to adjust and each successive adjustment allows for a deeper level of entering into each other. These adjustments create a pace, they give room for energetic material to come up, such as fears, blockages, and other lower density vibrations. When two partners learn to pause and move forward consciously, they may create safety, and the true grounds for the deepest layers of intimacy and healing to develop.

The deepest layers of intimacy are when we are free and to share our whole being, moment to moment, without fear. In order to get to this point, both individual must be comfortable speaking their truth, even when it will not be received well (at first). This ties into the full spectrum of being able to connect and share the basic realities of our individual experience and transmit them through emotions and words (aspect 4: self-work).

  1. 24/7 Awareness

The heights of intimacy are when an individual is fully awake and conscious, which denotes a continual awareness – yes, 24/7 is possible, many have mastered the ability to be aware in their sleep. But, regardless of just how capable you are of being awake, the aim to be as conscious as possible for the maximum amount of time. If one is looking to build intimacy with their lover who they live with, the process of maintaining awareness of the four directions, all the time, as your whole being in synch with your partner, is an excellent process of rapid evolution. In this kind of partnership, there is not an option for one partner to be sleeping (referring to not being aware of one of their domains), this drifting into unconsciousness will then affect both partners and their capacity to be intimate. Which leads to the next important point.

  1. Self-work

The capacity to be intimate depends entirely on your self-work. Self-work refers to your continual process of realization. It should go without saying that one will need to be practicing and expressing their being on the level of the four directions. Thus, the heights of this level of intimacy exclude an individual without a connection to their emotions or to their soul as having a lesser form and capacity to connect fully. The process of life is always guiding us into greater self-awareness and intimacy, thus it is important to sketch out the possibility of its highest expression, so there is an lofty anchor with which to set one’s intentions towards, with the full knowing that perfection is an ideal that is always evolving a few steps ahead of our current manifestation.

  1. Love

Without love, there is no true intimacy. You cannot meet, or be met, you cannot see, or be seen, you cannot know, or be known by another, unless there is a meeting at the level of love. Love is a frequency that allows for the communication to occur without error. When two people relate without love, there will be projection, and bias, there will be disturbances in each expression and how it reaches the other. Love is truth. Truth is grace. At times, love is fierce grace. But, without love, there is no intimacy. Thus, if one wants to truly be intimate, to have a soul level love and partnership develop in this lifetime, they must be willing to bask in the air of love, to know it deeply within themselves, and then to share it with another.

Many encounter love for a period. It is often the most wonderous encounter, but it lives in most peoples memory, because the fire of love must be tended with intimacy. And many who are graced with love are incapable of tending the fire…because the fire asks that we throw ourselves in it as fuel. A holy offering that will take every piece of us, every direction, and the fire of love will bring its warm light.

We can always come back to love. It is the center of ourselves and the relationship, and when there is a storm in relating, there is always a capacity to come back to love. Ultimately, the force of love acts as a higher intelligence with which two individual beings surrender to, and effectively dissolve their individual essences in the name of something higher. To dissolve your individual essence refers to the surrendering process of selfish wants and desires and the reprogramming of a more inclusive way of being intimate with another, and eventually with all beings. Love is the doorway, and it is often entered with another, but eventually that partnership leads to the opening of the heart so wide, that intimacy is capable with universe itself. Love is the doorway to the ALL.

Some of my favourite practices to guide and do that have helped me in my intimacy journey include:

  1. Breathwork
  2. Eye gazing
  3. Metta – self love meditation
  4. Compassion meditation
  5. Conscious or authentic relating
  6. Dance
  7. Shared plant medicine journeys
  8. Conscious sexuality
  9. Vipassana meditation
  10. Osho dynamic meditation
    If you have any questions, feel free to ask…or if you’ve been intrigued and would like to develop your capacity to be intimate, message me to set up a breathwork, meditation, or coaching appointment.

Biohacking Freedom?

A guide to working with alpha brainwaves, space, and surrender.

Research into alpha brainwaves began in the 1960’s and has offered much insight into the mind. Alpha brainwaves represent a relaxed yet alert state of mind – it is simular to many meditation states.

Alpha brainwaves also cause coherence across the brain… coherence refers to when multiple diverse regions of the brain are firing in synchronicity, which results in greater presence and a tilting towards whole brain functioning. Alpha brainwaves also put the body into parasympathetic, which denotes a relaxed state where the body rests, digests, repairs, and takes in information well.

One final comment about alpha is that renders a more diffuse awareness.  In contrast to the narrow field of awareness someone who is more stimulated or stressed will exhibit – more representative of sympathetic activity and beta brainwaves.

Researchers have found that subjects who learn to achieve alpha brainwaves on command find greater relaxation in their body… because they are relaxed, their brain is better able to take in their environment, even making colors and sounds increase in vividness. Individuals in alpha are better able at understanding their perspective of the whole, rather than being focused on the particular.  For example, instead of becoming stressed by a current stressor, one is able to maintain ease and a connection to the big picture of one’s life which takes the focus away from the stress. 

Great, right?!

So how does one produce alpha?
Researchers have tried relaxing music, visual imagery, and other techniques which produced some results. But, the two most effective techniques seem to be space and surrender.

What do I mean by space?

Well, instead of focusing on an internal or external image or idea, become aware of the space in the room, or close your eyes and be aware of the space between your ears.

Seems logical to think about, if you want a more diffuse and big picture awareness, switch the habitual gaze from objects to the space between…switch from the particular thing, to the context and environment.

I’m certain you’ve experienced going into nature wherein there is a large open space and your bodymind effortlessly shift into ease and relaxation…. that’s the beauty of space and alpha at work.

This is very much in tune with many spiritual teachings which focus on the ‘void’ or emptiness, such as those found in Zen and other systems of Buddhism.

The second method is surrender. Surrendering is one of the most powerful acts a human can do. In order to experience something totally in your being, you must surrender to the experience. This may include something joyful like love, or it may mean surrendering to the fact that a loved one has passed.

Most people don’t live in a place of surrender all the time…subtle layers of resistance live in the bodymind…perhaps a resistance to going to a certain job, or living in a certain place, or being around certain people…all of these scenarios create resistance to surrendering to life as it is, and create a scenario where one wants life to be as they want it to be.

To surrender means accepting a situation totally.

How to get good at surrendering?
Breathwork and yoga are great practices.

Every exhale is an oppourunity to surrender and relax. You take around 26,000 breaths a day, each is an oppourunity to breath in and create ease. If you are resisting your job, that’s 8 hours of holding onto your exhale, and that pattern of holding is not so easy to simply surrender once work is over.

Thus, practices like breath, yoga, and meditation teach the art and science of surrender.

They teach how to create softness throughout the body.  This softness creates resilience and strength to do the things you have to do, which may cause resistance, but you do them anyway.

History is full of inspiring individuals who surrender to situations without hardening. I think of Nelson Mandala being in prison without becoming rigid and un-loving.

Bonus: loving is a great way to surrender, for love sees the whole human, not in parts, and creates an openness throughout the body.

To wrap up, two great ways to achieve alpha brainwave is to visualize spaciousness and to surrender to what is.

Surrendering can be learned through the breath, yoga, and meditation.

Please note, that surrendering is a bit of a tricky affair at first. It is the effortful mind one often operates in that surrenders itself to the greater intelligence of the whole. So, despite surrendering being a conscious act, it is also a process of surrendering the ordinary part of you that is often in control. Thus, in order to surrender totally, one will need to let go of control, which is a courageous act of faith…because when one let’s go, there’s no telling what emotions and thoughts may arise. Therefore, it can be advantageous to practice surrendering in a safe space, such as with a breathworker, yoga teacher, meditation guide, therapist etc. They can both guide the process, and hold the space.

The gold at the end of the process is to let go, and live in a new way.

A way of trust.

Living in surrendering will see one’s life flower in the most unexpected way.

It’s an honour to guide people to this grace.

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